The school
What MyselfU is (and is not)
An honest account of what we do, what we do not do, and why we talk about belts when nobody is going to hit anyone.
In one sentence
MyselfU is a mental training school: emotional education for learning to recognize guilt, question the rules you never examined, and get your ability to choose back. It is a super dojo: each mental art (GuiltFu is the first) is a course with eight belts, short missions, exams and achievements. All content is free; to train you need a student account (name, email and password).
Why “MyselfU”
The name is Myself + You — and a nod to learning about yourself. It has a Spanish-language sister brand, MenteFu (Mente + Kung Fu), and both share the same idea: the language of martial arts carries associations that describe what caring for your mind takes remarkably well — discipline, practice, balance, focus, patience, knowing when not to react.
We use that language as an educational metaphor. We do not teach physical combat, we are no substitute for a real martial arts school, and we are not a traditional discipline of any kind. The belts in the Dojo represent personal progress, not a certification of anything.
Your mind needs training too. And victory is not about defeating anyone: it is about getting your ability to choose back.
What MyselfU IS
- Emotional education and self-knowledge.
- Critical thinking applied to the rules that govern you.
- Mental training: tools to practice with, not just to read.
- An invitation to responsibility without self-punishment.
- A place to learn to set boundaries and to repair when it is called for.
What MyselfU is NOT
MyselfU is not therapy, not diagnosis and not medical treatment. It does not replace the care of a mental health professional. If you feel intense or persistent distress, or you think about harming yourself, seek professional help or call your local emergency services. Everything here is meant to accompany you, not to replace anyone.
It is also not:
- a religion or a dogmatic philosophy;
- a physical martial arts school;
- a system for manipulating other people;
- an excuse to avoid responsibility.
And there are two things we will never tell you: that guilt is always bad, or that your family, your partner, your religion, your employer or your society are manipulating you by default. Guilt sometimes points to something real that deserves repair. And the people around you, most of the time, never examined the rules they passed on to you either.
How we talk
We try to be clear, close and, now and then, a little irreverent. But we hold ourselves to some rules:
| Instead of saying… | We say… |
|---|---|
| “You shouldn’t feel guilty.” | “Learn what your guilt means before you obey it.” |
| “They are manipulating you.” | “Learn to recognize when an emotion is being used to influence your decisions.” |
| “Do as you please.” | “Learn to tell freedom from irresponsibility.” |
| “Forget your mistakes.” | “Repair what needs repairing and stop punishing yourself for what you can no longer change.” |
The goal is to foster critical thinking, not to replace one dogma with another.
Where this comes from
Our starting hypothesis — that dysfunctional guilt can become one of the great organizers of everyday suffering — is exactly that: a hypothesis, psychological, philosophical and sociocultural, that we explore. We do not claim that guilt is the cause of all sadness, illness or unhappiness.
We lean on sources we cite in Research: above all on Norberto Levy’s work on guilt that tortures versus guilt that repairs, and on the psychology of moral emotions, the social psychology of influence and the philosophy of responsibility. When we mention studies on martial arts and self-regulation, we do so proportionately: there are interesting signals, not proof that “training cures” anything.
Your privacy
You sign in with your email and a password. Your progress (XP, belts, achievements, reflections) is stored in your account so you find it on any device, and we log your activity in the school only to understand what works and improve it. No advertising trackers. More in Privacy.
MyselfU and MenteFu
MyselfU has a Spanish-language sister brand, MenteFu: same philosophy, same journey, not a literal translation. If you know someone who needs this in Spanish, now you know where to send them.